With the expected announcement today by the Welsh Government that two households will be able to meet again, socially distancing and only travelling 5 miles to do so, tanker loads of Beer and tonnes of Barbeque packs are expected to be consumed from North to South.
Although I totally understand why things are being eased gently gently I can’t help but feel a little sad.
Whilst families will be reunited, Grandparents get to see their Grandchildren again, like many who live away from Family, I won’t.
I moved to Wales over 15 years ago now and I adore it, the land, the people,the culture, the life, the fact my children are 100% bilingual to use the corny phrase ‘love where you live’ , I genuinely do.
A few months ago in a discussion somebody mentioned how proud they were that their children had gone off to Uni / College but they had all returned home to live very close by and how this was a sign of being a good parent.
This statement hit me like a ton of bricks, and left me a bit of an emotional wreck. Did my parents think the opposite? I didn’t go home because I wasn’t happy? or did they believe that I thought they hadn’t done a good job?
After weeks of barely being able to think about it, but with a need to address it I worked out what was so shockingly short sighted with this statement.
What if my parents made me feel so safe they gave me extra confidence, the confidence that they will always be there wherever I am, the confidence they will drop everything and drive that monotonous journey to help and support, like they have done many many times, one phone-call and the wheels are on the road.
What if they gave me the confidence to go out and meet new people, to learn about new places without having to live by their sides.
I never felt guilty about moving away until I had the children but in normal times we see each other regularly and the time we spend with them is extra special.
So for those that have children who flew the nest and didn’t come back to live close by, don’t go walking 500 miles you’ll have epic blisters and quite possibly a ride home in a Panda Car.
Seriously though it is a hard time, but with all the mod cons we can do those awkward video chatty things and as everybody keeps saying ‘We’ll meet again’ fingers crossed it won’t be long.